Healing Through Connection
Your journey to deep understanding, richness, and meaning starts here.
Sex Therapy, Couples Therapy, and Individual Therapy for clients located in NY and NJ.
This isn’t what you wanted
You expected more. More from yourself. More from your life. More from your partner. You had so many dreams, goals, fantasies for the future. You felt such vibrancy and excitement, and now you feel…empty. Powerless. Hopeless. You lie in bed at night wondering how you got here. You hope that if you could just think long enough and hard enough, you will uncover what’s wrong with you and make your life better. You feel lost and confused and the more you ruminate about what’s going wrong, the more stuck you feel. But still you try…replay conversations in your head, worry about that one thing you said today, wonder what’s wrong with you…
You feel stuck. You don’t see a way forward.
You’ve read all the articles online that you can find, but nothing is changing. You can even feel yourself doing it again—falling into your same patterns and habits. You notice it happening, but it comes on too fast and you can’t stop it. You feel ashamed when this happens. Ashamed…and then angry. Angry at other people for making you feel this way. Angry at yourself for your reactions. You can’t seem to get it right, and you beat yourself up about it.
You know how to pretend
You are efficient, capable, determined. You know how to hold it together and present yourself well. No one realizes that you’re holding yourself together with fraying ropes. No one understands the depth of the chaos that fills you, how overwhelmed you feel. No one see you, because you don’t let anyone close enough to know you. You’ve learned how to take care of yourself. But it’s lonely over there. Safe…but lonely.
You’re looking for something more
You’re beginning to notice the ways you’ve kept yourself feeling safe and secure your whole life might not be working for you anymore. The rules you’ve learned for how you “should” be, for how the world is “supposed to” work, for how the people in your life “should” be acting are making it hard for you to feel empowered, confident, grounded, at peace. You start questioning your life compass and wondering what needs to happen for you to get unstuck and start living and loving the way you want. You’re ready to take a courageous, compassionate, clear, and kind look at yourself—all parts of yourself—and unpack the ways you have been holding yourself back. You’re ready to learn new ways of relating to yourself and others. You’re ready to make a meaningful change.
Welcome!
I’m Ayden Ferstenberg, and I’m a licensed clinical psychologist. Let’s walk the path of healing, connection, and empowerment together.
Sex Therapy
Relationship Therapy
Individual Therapy
In-person and remote options
My office is conveniently located in River Edge, NJ. Can’t make it into the office? No worries – I’ve got you covered with teletherapy.
You are not alone.
aydenferstenberg@gmail.com
(862)-249-0946